I didn't mean it...

Okay, so how many times have I heard this excuse. Too many to count and honestly I don't buy it. What am I talking about? I'm talking about the famous....I was upset so I said some things I didn't mean...I was drunk.I didn't know what I was saying...I was abducted by aliens who inserted a probe into my brain and now control my every word by remote control from outer space...I can't be held responsible for what comes out of my mouth!! Okay...so I've only actually heard that last example a couple of times. But the other two...PLEASE! Enough already. Nothing pisses me off more...okay that's a lie...there are plenty of things that piss me off more...but this does piss me off quite a bit.

First excuse: I was upset/I didn't mean it. The hell you didn't. Now what you really should say is: I said some things I shouldn't have. That would be more accurate because when we are upset we most certainly do mean what we say. If we didn't, then where does it come from? Do we pull these hurtful and harmful words from out of thin air. No. They're already inside us, floating around our minds and hearts just waiting for that push so they can be released.

Second excuse: I was drunk/I didn't know what I was saying. When we drink we lose our inhibitions, we lose our fear (or most of it), and we are free to be that primitive ape-like being that we know we really are. What we say when we are drunk is probably more true than any other words we've ever uttered at any other time in our lives.

Moral of this post. If you can't be honest with other people then at least be honest with yourself. Know that you are in control of what you say to others ALWAYS. And know that what you say will inevitably have some sort of consequence. If you REALLY feel it but don't want to pay that consequence, then DON'T SAY IT. Duh...